Is your Adaptive Child or your Functional Adult running the show?[1] This is a crucial question whether you’re a leader or if you simply face complexity in your personal or professional life. (Remember! All significant relationships are complex circumstances.) The Adaptive Child endures or confronts its world using a fear-based, reactive operating system. The Functional…
Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is being afraid and not letting it stop you. Rumi says, “Today, like every other day, we wake up emptyand frightened. Don’t open the door to the studyand begin reading. Take down a musical instrument. Let the beauty we love be what we do.There are hundreds of…
“I need to quit healthcare and find another profession.” I’ve heard several versions of this sentiment from clients over the years. Our healthcare system is out of balance, no doubt. But you don’t need to change careers to regain psychological equilibrium and passion. (And you’re not going to make the healthcare world less dysfunctional either.)…
“How do I thrive in a dysfunctional healthcare system and not let it discourage me or drive me insane?” Several of my physician clients have presented different versions of this question in sessions. Before discussing “stay-sane” action items, we must start by articulating the nuance of the healthcare dysfunction we’re dealing with. Know the Function…
“Keep striving until you find yourself.” Run like crazy when you hear this saying or any other bullshit saying like it. The future you is not hiding under some rock out there waiting to be discovered. To better engage complexity, to develop relational depth, to lead with more competence: these all require you to create…
Jeff Bezos suggests the “two pizza rule” for Amazon meetings, no more attendees than can be fed with two pizzas. (About 6-10 people.) Meetings with more than ten people risk diluted communication, allow people to go passive (hide in plain sight), and undermine decision making. Here are 5 other ways to ensure you have productive…
“Brain Plasticity” can get physicians (and executives) into trouble. Physicians are people. In their early years, like the rest of us, many endure bullying, abuse, and traumatic loss. But physician exposure to trauma is more likely to continue from there. Up to 78 percent of residents experience at least one traumatic event during their training,…
If you want to help as many people as possible, you’ll see to it that you’re around for a long time. Sustainability has a very high leadership effectiveness correlation.
“Wherever you go, don’t forget to take your body with you!” Adaptive Development tends to be “top down.” It goes something like this: However, now we understand that our thinking is often impacted when the body reacts to a dynamic or circumstance and sends counterproductive messages to the brain. In other words, sometimes it’s the…
Peel back the layers of physician anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation, physician suicide, and you’ll often find the negative manifestation of the Socialized Mind.[i] “You can’t reach out for help because you’ll be seen as weak.” “It doesn’t matter that it’s unsustainable. You must power through, must keep going.” “You’re a doctor. You’re supposed to have…